Embracing Your Nomadic Soul
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of someone else’s thinking. –Steve Jobs
UPDATE: READ THIS POST TO SEE WHERE WE ARE IN OUR JOURNEY. IT MIGHT JUST SURPRISE YOU.
It’s taken my husband and I years to get to this point.
My husband grew up moving every few years…he lived in places like Alaska and Iceland. I grew up with my head in the clouds…reading anything about foreign lands and new places that I could get my hands on. I would spend my summers going through the Best Western hotel guide (remember when those were thick paper catalogs?) I’d check travel guides out at the library. I’d find any map I could and highlight dream road trip routes on it.
I didn’t see it then.
My husband and I moved from Montana to Minnesota when we were 19. And we figured we’d rent an apartment for a few years, start to prepare ourselves for the “settling down” life, and buy a house. 5 years went by. And instead of buying a house, we put our priorites everywhere else. We moved to another city nearby, stayed there for a few months, then took an opportunity to move to Iowa. We looked at houses there…got pregnant with our first son…everything was in line to settle down. Finally. But we got the itch. And the stars aligned allowing us to move. So we moved to Minnesota. Got an apartment. And talked about settling down.
And guess what.
We moved again. And as we started looking at houses in our new town, determined that this was the time to settle (we were in our 30s by now, after all.) And we got that itch. The ability to settle down wasn’t something we had. So we moved. Halfway across the country to Washington. We love Washington. Heart and soul, the Evergreen State drew us in. So it made sense to settle there. But.
We didn’t. We moved again. And again. And again.
It took us until we lived in Wisconsin, a few months ago, to see what was staring us in the face the entire time.
A facebook memory post popped up, of a blog I used to keep for family, and in that blog was something I had totally forgot about. Me writing about how we wanted more…how we wanted to be on the road. All the time. How we dreamed of exploring and meeting new people and being minimalist.
And the post was from 5 years ago.
This dream of being nomads was something we had talked about for years. And then when we were packing for our most recent move (this last weekend), my husband came across a letter he had written to me, mentioning how his dream was to travel the country with me, living on the road. That was 13 years ago.
How had this dream been living in us this long? How had we never fully acknowledged it?
We were already embracing our nomadic soul. That long ago written letter confirmed what we knew all along.
We were weird.
What you seek is seeking you -Rumi
And that’s ok.
We are finally at peace with who we are. We’re the ones who can’t settle, at least not now. We’re the ones who haven’t chosen the same path a lot of people have. Neither way is bad. We just know who we are now.
If you’re trying to find your path in life, if you’re feeling like you should settle, if you are told by society or the people around you to put roots down but you just can’t…that’s ok.
Here’s some thoughts:
1) You have to live with your own decision.
Does the thought of settling down in one place give you a “rock in the gut” feeling? It might be time to examine the reasons why. Because you have to live with what you decide, and if what you are doing doesn’t bring you joy, then it may be time to reevaluate.
2) You can always figure out the next step down the road. Literally.
You don’t have to have all the answers for tomorrow, today. Maybe your family and you want to do this for 6 months. Or a year. Maybe you don’t know how long it will be. But if you have the dream to do it, it’s worth embracing.
The worst that can happen after diving into the research is you decide not to do it. If you’ve done your research, if you know that you can survive and thrive living a nomadic life, than isn’t it worth testing the waters?
3) Find a compromise.
If you know that you have a nomadic heart, but don’t want to live on the road full time, look at other options. Maybe you are qualified for a job that you get to travel. Perhaps your company needs people to move to other markets. Not everyone wants to travel. But if you do, go for it!
4) Be ok with who you are.
A lot of people will tell you to settle down. From day one, society tells us to buy the house, stay in one place, and that is the proper way to live a responsible life. In my opinion though, if you are providing for yourself and your family, working to improve your life, making sure you, your spouse, and kiddos are generally happy, and making decisions after considering ALL factors, that is responsible.
5) Acknowledge your dream.
This is the one that took us the longest. As we searched for what we were meant for in life, what we were meant for was standing there all along. Staring us in the face.
We ignored it though, thinking that it was irresponsible. Ridiculous. Unacceptable.
Now though, we acknowledge our dreams. We embrace them. We understand that while not everyone is going to understand why we want what we want, we are the ones who have to live with it. Not everyone else. This is our dream…and we embrace it. It makes us who we are.
Embracing your nomadic soul can take on many forms. It’s up to you to figure out what you want. But chances are, if you clicked on this post by choice, you already have that spark of desire.
The next step is to figure out how you’re going to follow it. And that looks different for each and every individual. Our journey is different from others, and I think that that is what makes the full time rv life, nomadic life, world traveller life, etc so amazing. We all have our stories.
We’re just starting out on ours, but the first step to forging your own path in life is embracing who you were made to be.
UPDATED TO ADD: WE TOOK OUR OWN ADVICE AND DECIDED THAT INSTEAD OF FULL TIME RV LIFE, WE WOULD INSTEAD WORK ON FINDING A COMPROMISE. KEEP FOLLOWING OUR BLOG FOR GREAT TRAVEL TIPS, EVEN THOUGH WE WON’T BE ON THE ROAD FULL TIME! THE FACT THAT WE CHANGED OUR PATH DOESN’T CHANGE A THING ABOUT HOW I FEEL ABOUT OUR NOMADIC SOULS, WE JUST DECIDED TO CHANGE HOW WE APPROACH IT!